one of my friends is in what might be labelled as an open relationship… for the past many days we have had numerous discussions on what a person like her is doing in such a relationship… the reason we ask this is because this friend of mine is an epitome of what people often call ’emotional fools’… and this she has proven by being emotionally involved in no-strings attached relationships…
this led me to question… how open is an open relationship? i mean does an open relationship mean that we don’t care… or like another friend of mine introduced me to the term- friends with benefits… so friends care, right? but then friends also have strings attached.. doesn’t that change the relationship a little? it doesn’t remain all that open anymore, does it? or are such friendships expected to end when one or both of them decide to move on to someone else…
as always after each conversation, i thought, i thought and i thought some more… and again as always, i had more questions instead of answers… i am all for open-ness in relationships… one of my favourite lines is- “i believe in giving space in relationships”.. needless to say i expect some space myself… so open-ness is welcome… but open relationships seem to confuse me… on second thoughts, do we need to label relationships at all? and if we don’t, then do we create unnecessary chaos? i think i should stop…